Thoughts and Thriving


Thoughts for your Path into Thriving


1. Don’t believe all your thoughts. 

What if You believe something that is not true anymore, that You have outlived?

Consider choosing new thoughts and beliefs which reflect authentically who You are now…and yes, we can!


2. Choose to think only what makes You feel better. 

Why would You want to think something that makes You feel worse?

We often forget that we have a choice about what we are thinking – question your old thoughts!


3. Risk giving yourself three appreciations every day. 

What better thing to do while brushing your teeth or waiting at a red light?

We all thrive on being appreciated, not only children do – You, the adult does, too!


4. As often as You will remember, be grateful to your feet for carrying You. 

It is okay, to also thank your eyes, hands, heart, colon, etc…

It always makes us feel better, to be grateful for something –

– it balances the dark clouds in our life with the warm light of gratitude!


5. Live every moment, as if this is your last day in this body.

When if not now, do You want to live yourself authentically?!


With love ~ Siljoy

From Conundrum to Clarity

From Conundrum to Clarity

Allow for the right time… create space for clarity to emerge… consider resistance or confusion to be information about something relevant to your issue… trust the process… know that all will be clear when the time is right for it… be curious and actually enjoy not-yet-knowing… breathe and feel your feet…
With love ~ Siljoy

Success-Failure-Thinking … Go Beyond it!

Success-Failure-Thinking … Go Beyond it!

Grow your Self beyond the concepts of typical success-failure-thinking. We are a few weeks into the new year now and for many  scrutinizing their “new failures” in regards to their new goals have already begun. In thinking about your New Year’s Resolution, I invite You to step out of the familiar goal setting and give something entirely different to your Self. Rather than going after something outside of now and You, strengthen what is …

Choose, as often as You can remember, to give your Self some appreciation. Appreciate anything which is true about You. The truth always strengthens us, even if it is a truth that You might not like. When You acknowledge it, You actually place it within the realm of your personal power – and how that is important is that now You can actually do something about it! So what, if as a new approach, just for a month, You would make an effort to appreciate your Self daily?! Yes, even on “bad” days. And then let your Self experience how your life might have lightened… If You truly would not feel differently after a few weeks, feel free to go back to old ways of judging, doubting and dismissing your Self. Success-failure-thinking is familiar…we all learned it early on during our socialization – and – does it TRULY strengthen us?

How do I appreciate my Self? With simple thoughts like…

  • Your honesty about feeling vulnerable;
  • The good friend/spouse/parent/child/professional You are;
  • Your efforts to do something for You or others;
  • Your struggle when You haven’t been perfect;

Appreciate your Self for remembering — when you forgot to acknowledge your (lovable) humanness.

Risk loving your Self more … just as You can. Appreciate your slightest effort to contradict those sabotaging inner voices. There is no one better suited to support You in achieving your goals than You are!

Feel the gentle yet powerful effects of your own appreciation. Go beyond the imprisoning of success-failure-thinking in your life and start strengthening your Self by loving You, just as You are …

With love ~ Siljoy

New Year Resolutions

New Year Resolutions and “Up until now …”

So many of us begin a year with a list of New Year resolutions. Here is a holistic approach I recommend to start manifesting any change.

Think about ant habit that You want to change. How have You thought of your Self in regards to this habit? Then add these three little words: “Up until now…”© and repeat it to your Self. For example, instead of thinking “I always procrastinate”, rephrase it as “Up until now, I have been procrastinating and — I am changing it now.”

By adding these three little words You create a new situation for your Self, consciously and sub-consciously! Up until now…You need to put your undesired behavior into past tense in order to use correct grammar. This reinforces the idea that You are done with this pattern.
By acknowledging your reality, You are strengthening your Self. Even if it is a painful truth, honoring one’s truth is always strengthening!
With “up until now” You open a window of possibility and take a good first step into manifesting your new reality. The beauty is that in all my years of teaching to use these three little words, I and my clients have observed, how suddenly they started taking new steps…out of old habits and into new desired habits.

Respect the Power of Words! Up until now…

Once You decide to learn something new or to create a change, such as reducing your weight, pay attention to the words and statements You use. If we fill our thoughts with self-sabotaging words, we face difficulties in achieving our goal. Let me share an example here to make it even clearer…

For example, think of the statement “I am trying to lose weight.” It is a doubly self-sabotaging sentence. Our subconscious is trained to believe that “losing” is not good for us, such as losing keys or a wallet. We all learned that “losing something” means we need to find it again — welcome to the famous “yo-yo effect” in dieting by having to find the “lost weight” again!

Secondly, the word “trying” implies failure. By saying that You are trying, You are telling your Self that You will or can not do it. The word “trying” is applied appropriately only to true past failure “I tried and I failed” and to trying on clothes in a store. I’d like to suggest a different statement: “I am on the path of dropping or reducing weight.” Or even better, healthier: “I am gaining muscle weight and shedding excess body fat.”

Read more on weight issues and take a look at my Perspectives on Holistic Weight “Loss” web page.

With love ~ Siljoy

Feelings and Thoughts



I feel, You feel. Feelings – how do we create them? How can we control our feelings?

Consider this:

We actually do have power over what we are feeling! The only exceptions are sudden and surprising events beyond our control such as a car coming toward us or a stranger being aggressive. In these instances, we have no time to think and our emotional response of fear for instance is immediate. When we combine a thought with our energy, it can lead to the next thought AND it can create a feeling. (Unless You are thinking about something completely neutral, like a math question). Think of your ‘life energy’ as a neutral force – it is us who add the thought that will then translate into a feeling.

So when we think worrisome thoughts or focus on concerns with the anticipation that something “bad” is going to happen, our energy might turn into feelings of fear or anxiety. When we anticipate something “good” to happen, our resulting feeling will be excitement and happiness.

We can think about something from many perspectives. When I consider various angles of thought and CHOOSE which one supports me most, I control which feeling I end up with! Let’s take the famous example of the “glass being half-full”: I can be glad, thinking of my glass as half-full, or, I can be disappointed when I think of it as half-empty.

Wanting to overcome fear or anxiety, we need to shift our thinking from often habitual worry-thoughts to the assumption that something INTERESTING will happen – and we will end up with the powerful feeling of curiosity! And we CAN do that when we choose to be open to the outcome and choose to TRUST…

May these my thoughts inspire You to ponder your thoughts… and then I will need to write another blog about TRUSTING…

With love ~ Siljoy